SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS! Never ever display:
Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling.
Honestly, I always thought that things like INFIDELITY, ADDICTIONS, MONEY ISSUES or LYING were the big destroyers!
But as it turns out, it is our communication style; the way in which we relate to our partners that is a bigger determinant of relationship success or failure.
In a previous article I wrote “People don’t remember what we say, people remember how we make them feel.” Stay conscious of how your words are making your partner feel
. https://1birthdayfun.medium.com/how-do-your-words-make-people-feel-25e083c71dbe
This is so true in relationships!
If we approach our partners with openness, honesty, compassion and empathy, if we are ready to really listen understand, it seems that no matter how big the issue, the relationship can survive.
Let’s now look at the four areas of communication that have been identified as sure fire relationship destroyers:
Contempt
Criticism
Defensiveness
Stonewalling
And they are so dangerous!
