How Attention Seeking Behavior Can Sabotage Your True Happiness

What really brings you joy

Janice Tovey


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Is attention seeking behavior throwing shade on your true brilliance? If so you may be wasting your precious time and energy on superficial rewards. You may be guilty of creative self-sabotage.

Before we delve any deeper, let’s take a look at the distinction between intrinsic and extrinsic rewards.

Intrinsic rewards are the non-physical rewards. They can be defined as the feeling of contentment one finds in the completion of any task.

An extrinsic reward is a tangible and visible reward like money, marks or recognition.

Both are important motivators. But which ones bring true meaning to life?

Attention Seeking Behavior

For grown-ups, attention-seeking behavior is an unconscious or conscious effort to become the center of attention, sometimes to gain admiration or validation.

This Is What It Looks Like:

  • being controversial for a reaction
  • fishing for compliments
  • embellishing and exaggerating for recognition
  • pretending to be incapable of doing something to get attention

Low self -esteem, loneliness and jealousy can cause attention seeking behavior.

Money is important. We do many things in our lives for money. We need it to survive. That goes without saying.

Contentment, fulfillment and joy are also very important. What is money without these. You have heard the saying, “money doesn’t buy happiness.” Is it true, I don’t know. I think there are probably many unhappy people with lots of money and many contented and joyful people without.

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Strike A Balance

But, let’s not go to extremes. A balance would be nice. We need to earn a living and we need to find activities that bring us joy and make us want to get out of bed in the morning.

Is attention seeking behavior throwing shade on your true brilliance and have you taken the time to consider what really brings you joy.

My challenge to you. Pick a topic that you are truly passionate about. It doesn’t matter what it is. It could be your favorite color or movie. Write about it. See how you feel. While it might not rate super high in SEO, it may bring you a sense of fulfillment and happiness that will add a bounce to your step and twinkle to your day.

And who knows the rewards that might bring.

Happy writing.



Janice Tovey

My passion is writing. I also love reading, teaching, animals, nature, music, and humor. I am curious about everything and enjoy writing about all things.