How Attention Seeking Behavior Can Sabotage Your True Happiness

What really brings you joy

Janice Tovey
2 min readJun 1, 2022


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Is attention seeking behavior throwing shade on your true brilliance? If so you may be wasting your precious time and energy on superficial rewards. You may be guilty of creative self-sabotage.

Before we delve any deeper, let’s take a look at the distinction between intrinsic and extrinsic rewards.

Intrinsic rewards are the non-physical rewards. They can be defined as the feeling of contentment one finds in the completion of any task.

An extrinsic reward is a tangible and visible reward like money, marks or recognition.

Both are important motivators. But which ones bring true meaning to life?

Attention Seeking Behavior

For grown-ups, attention-seeking behavior is an unconscious or conscious effort to become the center of attention, sometimes to gain admiration or validation.

This Is What It Looks Like:

  • being controversial for a reaction
  • fishing for compliments
  • embellishing and exaggerating for recognition
  • pretending to be incapable of doing something to get attention



Janice Tovey

My passion is writing. I also love reading, teaching, animals, nature, music, and humor. I am curious about everything and enjoy writing about all things.