Lower Your Expectations To Raise Your Happiness

Wait, huh, what? Yup it is true and there are 3 things to prove it.

Janice Tovey
3 min readJan 15, 2022


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Starting from birth, we are taught to aim high. To reach for the stars.

I suggest the opposite.

Aim low!

Let me explain.

Let’s pretend there are two types of people. Satisficers and Maximizers.

The Satisficers are the people with the lower expectations. They make a choice and decide that it is good enough.

The Maximizers are the individuals with the high expectations. They spend lots of time making a decision because they want to make the very best choice. The perfect choice. The first time. No mistakes allowed.

You can probably see where this is going.

When measuring happiness, it turns out that Satisficers are happier in the long run. Maximizers set the bar so high as to never reach their idealized goals. Maximizers often face disappointment and shame. They believe that they have to always be perfect. They continually second guess themselves. Rather than feeling happy they feel discouraged. They berate themselves for not succeeding.

The satisficer mindset proves to be healthier.



Janice Tovey

My passion is writing. I also love reading, teaching, animals, nature, music, and humor. I am curious about everything and enjoy writing about all things.