Why Do We Give People More Credit Than They Deserve

And ourselves not enough

Janice Tovey


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Why do we give people more credit than they often deserve and ourselves not near enough.

Yes, it is nice to have role models and people to respect. But at our expense?

We all do it, and we know other people who do this and when they do it is very annoying. What is the point? Why are they putting themselves down?

Is it a form of protection?

Are they insecure?

Do they think they will be liked more if self-deprecating?

Have they been conditioned not to “toot their own horns?”

Are they afraid of rejection, being laughed or ostracized, or seen for who they truly are?

At the end of the day, how does this make them feel. They didn’t speak up in the meeting with their grand idea. Someone else did and got all the credit.

I get it, we are not all extroverts, but we must stop putting other people on pedestals at our expense.

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Think of it as a bank account. You are spiritually and psychologically being depleted every time you give someone more credit than is due.

Why not instead, every time you think of engaging in this behavior, you instead think of the “credit,” take it back to where it belongs, and put it in your own “emotional credit” account. Build up your own credit.

Don’t let anyone tell you that you are being selfish.

Once you realize you deserve better, letting go will be the best decision ever.

When you earn something, you never have to worry about justifying that you truly deserve it.
Ronda Rousey

If you really believe that you deserve better, work on you, not them.
Bobby Williams

I am still trying to figure out why people do this, or maybe it is just me.

Janice Tovey 2023



Janice Tovey

My passion is writing. I also love reading, teaching, animals, nature, music, and humor. I am curious about everything and enjoy writing about all things.