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You Telling Me Not to Panic Makes Me Panic
What not to say to someone having an anxiety attack
A panic attack is a sudden episode of intense fear that triggers severe physical reactions when there is no real danger or apparent cause. Panic attacks can be very frightening. When panic attacks occur, you might think you’re losing control, having a heart attack or even dying. Mayo Clinic
If you have experienced a panic attack you know how terrifying they can be. Often you believe you are going to die. The physical and emotional sensations are intense and horrifying.
While friends, family and medical professionals may want to help, the following advice does nothing to sooth the suffering.
Don’t say these things:
Will you please just stop and calm down! They would if they could, but they can’t. This statement can have the opposite effect.
You have nothing to worry about, you are just fine. A person suffering from a panic attack is in extreme distress and they are the furthest thing from being OK. This insensitive statement adds fuel to the flames.
Telling a person to think about something else or to just not worry about it is very unhelpful. Ordering a person around is counterproductive.
